Ladies I am struggling...big time. I am doubting our decision for no more babies! I knew I would feel this way, but I am telling you it's heartbreaking. I was fine with it, even relived to be done! And then all of the sudden...BAM...baby fever! I have been in tears many nights not wanting to take that pill. It's been so hard. The GD said he would be fine if we kept trying, but I just don't know what to do. Financially, space wise, etc we would be better off to be "done". Not to mention not feeling like I could handle the loss of another baby. But what am I supposed to do with the loss of a dream. It's just so hard to know what to do. What the right decision is. I am struggling with know what God's plan is for us. And on top of it all I am still trying to get the house ready for this weekend's DNOW! Pray for me, for peace & strength! Thank you my friends!
I am sending you a huge hug! I wish I had the answer for you. I would just pray hard for God to make the decision for you. Whenever I feel like I do not know the answer I honestly say Lord choose for me and make sure I hear you loud and clear (he knows I get distracted) I may not love his choice but I know he will give me peace.
ReplyDeleteYour feelings are so normal! I think every woman struggles with this decision, I know I did. We made the decision not to have any more biological children because of the intense post-partum issues I experienced.
ReplyDeleteFor my hubby that meant we were completely done. For me, I am still open to adoption, though I am pretty happy to be past the diaper-carseat-stroller phase of life.
God knows your heart better than you do, so relinquish your emotions to him and he'll guide you through this season. I promise!
I am sorry you are struggling with this decision. My advice, fast, pray, then go to the temple and get a priesthood blessing. There is no "right" or "wrong" answer. The best answer is the one that brings you peace.
ReplyDeleteI struggled the same way, only mine came after permanent "no more babies surgery". I spent about a week crying and then decided that what will be, will be. I can't give you any advice as to how to get over it. It is just something we all have to do on our own.
ReplyDeleteHowever, I will send many hugs and a huge prayer that you will receive comfort in your time of need.
I'm praying for your peace and guidance on this issue.
ReplyDeletei'm so sorry you're struggling with this, sweety. while i know it's a very different situation, i struggle with my & tim's decision to not have kids as well. it's so hard to give up something you want so much, especially when the opposite decision would be just as valid. i'm praying for you, girl :-)
ReplyDeletePraying. Praying. And praying some more. Praying for peace. Comfort. Strength. And more peace. Peace for where God wants you right now. Guidance. For Him to carry you through...
ReplyDeleteWell first of all I will pray for you to be at peace and know God's will for your family. I know for us we never really wanted more than two. We both knew that it would be enough for us and we prayed that we would be peaceful with our decision and that it would be God's will for our family. When our first was born we knew right away we wanted more. Then when our second was baking in the oven we prayed to God asking if it was the right decision to have my tubes tied. Soon after we both sat down and discussed what we felt God had told us and we were comfortable with having it done at the same time as my c-section. We both truly thought that was God's will for us. To this day we are still confident of our decision and have agreed that if we get the urge to have another we would consider adoption and we are both happy with that. It's been three years now and we have discussed looking into adoption but not sure if we want to have the responsibility of raising another child. The two we have are wonderful blessings and with the Jacob the first having so much going on in his life struggling with Asperger's. We feel like God lead us to a good decision. Follow God, he will never lead you in the wrong direction. He will tell you what he thinks is best for you in order to glorify him. Just listen with open hearts. If you don't mind may I put you on my mom's bible study prayer list? I know this was long but I hope it helps in some way.
ReplyDeleteIf you ever need to chat let me know. my e-mail is onemoosesmom@yahoo.com.
ReplyDelete*HUGZ*
ReplyDeleteOh, Cassandra. If you have read any of my archive posts (under the "fertility management" label), you will see this is a topic near and dear to my heart. I struggle totally surrendering this issue to God. Really seeking HIS will for my life. What does His picture for our family look like? I dont' want to miss it!
ReplyDeleteFeel free to email me any personal questions concerning my research and my own discoveries.
Blessings new friend,
Jess
I hope you've been able to find some comfort since you posted this. I think your feelings are very normal. It's hard to know what the right thing to do is, especially considering all you've been through. Hang in there and give it all to the Lord. You'll be fine in His hands!! =)
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